Knowing how and when to tell someone you love them for the first time can be a special kind of confusing. Show
I remember so well when I was falling in love with my own boyfriend. We had been friends for three months when we realized that it was more than friendship. I knew I loved him, but I was too scared to actually say, "I love you." Instead, one day I said, "I am being careful with my words." He smiled and said the same, and for a month or so, we skirted around those three little words, replacing them instead with my careful phrase. I was waiting for the perfect moment. This was the love of my life and I wanted the moment I told him I loved him to be the perfect moment. So, what happened? We were rolling around in bed one day, teasing each other, and I said, "I don’t just love you for your package." Then I realized what I'd said and he realized what I'd said and we looked at each other, wide-eyed ... and burst out laughing. He made some similarly crass statement and, boom, our love for one another was declared. I love our story, even though I know it's not the story every girl wishes for. And that said, there are ways to make that moment perfect for you and your own relationship. Here are 5 tips on how to tell someone you love them for the first time in a way that will make you both smile.1. Make sure you really mean it.The first step toward telling someone you love them for the very first time is making sure you really mean it. Saying I love you is a big step, and if you say it to get a guy to like you, or because you are feeling vulnerable, or because you really want to but aren’t sure you do — then don't. Wait until you really love your person before you say the words. Don’t force it. True love is important and shouldn’t be faked. 2. Choose the perfect setting.Picking the perfect setting can be an important part of telling someone you love them. Every couple is different and what works for some doesn’t so much for others. What would be the perfect place for you and your person? Do you love the beach? How about that bar where you first met? Or perhaps on a rooftop at sunset? In bed? In front of your friends? Think about what would be perfect for the two of you as a couple and what you feel would make the first time you say those words special. 3. Look them in the eye.The best way for someone to really hear and understand you when you are saying something important is to make direct eye contact as you speak. Advertisement Feeling stuck in your relationship? Click here to chat with a certified coach from Relationship Hero to help transform your love life! Think about when someone told you something important but didn’t look directly at you. Was the import of that statement reduced because of the lack of eye contact? Did you not really believe or trust what they were saying? Making eye contact with your guy when you are telling him you love him is key! You want him to know you mean it! 4. Let them feel it.Words are very important, and so are actions. Telling your guy you love him is important, but backing it up with actions is more so. The actions can be small, like holding his hand, or bigger, like doing his favorite thing in bed, or huge, like having dinner with his mother every Sunday. Think about the times when you have been in a relationship and the guy tells you he loves you but then he disappears or doesn’t treat you right. Did that make you feel loved? So, tell your guy you love him, but show him, too. 5. Be creative.In this day and age of everything being posted on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat, sometimes getting creative with your declaration of love can be fun. I remember that when I was in high school, my boyfriend took me to the beach and drew the words "I love you" in the sand. Another guy gave me a cake with the words "and then I met you." (How lucky was I in both cases?) What would be fun and creative for you to do? If you aren’t a creative person, check out Pinterest. There are plenty of unique and exciting ways to tell someone you love them all over the internet. It’s OK to not have an original idea. Just making the effort and making it your own is a huge demonstration of how you really feel. Telling someone you love them for the very first time is exciting and scary. It's a special moment and something that you will remember forever. So, make sure that you really mean it, choose someplace special, back up the words with actions, and be creative. Make the moment one that is perfect for both of you. Perhaps this is the beginning of your happily ever after. Mitzi Bockmann is a NYC-based Certified Life Coach and mental health advocate whose writing has been published in The Huffington Post, Prevention, Psych Central, Pop Sugar, MSN, and The Good Man Project, among others.
Love, love, love. Love drives us truly crazy. Daydreaming about our love, staying up late at night wondering what he’s doing. He, always he. He fills your mind endlessly, leaving nearly no place for other to lay a hand on you. Well, that’s just few ‘symptoms’ that a girl usually shows when they’re madly in love. It doesn’t stop there, love will push you to do something for the one you love, of course. You might feel like saying how much you love your partner, since it’s overflowing. But, be careful, girls. Especially if it’s your first! It might freak you out, saying that you love someone isn’t that easy. You might need to know the right way and the perfect timing will make a big difference in that ‘I love you’ you say. But first, here are few reasons why you should say ‘I love you’ to your boyfriend: Why Should You Say It?1. He Need To KnowIt will be romantic when the guy say ‘I love you’, confessing in the sweetest way that will make your heart burst. But have you ever put yourself in your boyfriend ‘shoes’? Yes, he’s already yours, you’re his. But he might be wondering do you really love him after all this time, or maybe just need some validation of that love you have for him. It’s still nice to hear how someone you love saying it out loud. 2. Communicate In A Sweet WayHealthy relationship need communication. Communicate what it’s in your heart to him, let him know your feelings. It feels good how people communicate their deepest feeling to you. You might want to read: Characteristic of A Healthy and An Unhealthy Relationship 3. Make Him Feel SecureBoy, just like girl, can also feel insecure in a relationship. Maybe they express it differently, maybe at times they can’t even express it. Letting him know that you love him will make him understand and at the same time, make him feel secure in the relationship. 4. It'll Make Him Feel LovedTelling him how you love him will make him feel good himself, it will make him recognize you as the woman who I love and love me. When someone feel loved, they will turn it into action, they will keep you in mind and perhaps won’t feel lonely as well. Since there’s his girlfriend loving him dearly. Signs It’s Time To Say LoveJust like how barista has their own timing to brew their coffee, your love life need a perfect timing. Saying love way too soon is a disaster, when on the other hand, being too slow or late isn’t good either. Not saying at all might make you regret it one day, when the chance has gone. Here are few signs that it’s the perfect time for you to say it: 1. You’re Sure About How You FeelThere are times when we might be thinking, do I really love him, or is it just comfortable feeling. You need to make sure that your feeling is true to make that 3 words meaningful and impactful. 2. You Know Your Relationship Is ReadyYou can’t just babble around on your first date saying ‘I love you’, can you? Make sure both of you’re close enough and have been together for few times so that he won’t feel scared. 3. You’re Willing To Show ItSaying love just by words is easy, but saying it from your heart means you’re capable of loving this person as time goes by. You’re ready to show him that you meant what you say. That it’s not just nonsense. Ways To Say It For The First TimeEvery first time is something exciting, interesting, and you might feel nervous about it. You wouldn’t want to stutter while saying I love you, would you? Here are few ways to say and express your love that will make your boyfriend craves you more without scaring them off : 1. Imagine How Would You Like To Say ItBest ways to tell your boyfriend you love him for the first time? Would you like to say it while having dinner together? Late at night when you’re about to end the call? Whatever your personal choice, you should be comfortable in that situation. 2. Say It When Both Of You’re In A Good MoodLookout for the circumstances, pick the best time when both of you’re chilling together, in private. Saying it to support him when he’s going through hardships or event will also be okay, though. You might also read: Sweet Things to Say to Your Boyfriend When He's Depressed 3. RelaxAlthough it’s your first time, relax and be comfortable with you loved ones will build up the situation better. 4. Look Him In The EyeIf you’re planning to say it directly to him, you need to learn making eye contact with him. That way he will feel that love through your eyes, and he know his girl’s being serious. 5. Don’t Push HimWe’re all dating different kind of person, be prepare if he’s giving you reaction that’s not so good or unexpected. He might need time, or maybe he’s just surprised. As long as you say what you really feel, it’s alright. 6. Give Him AffectionHug, kiss, cuddle, or just warm big smile will make him really feel the moment. And c’mon, who don’t love hugs? 7. Be CreativeIf you think saying I love you just like that is boring or lame, you might try to make something for him. Make a sweet scrapbook of ‘Reasons Why I Love You’ or any other day. Who knows he’ll be smiling in the middle of the night looking through the artwork you gave him? 8. Cook Something For HimBoys love food, especially if the girl they love cook it for them. Cook something and arrange it nicely with hearts on it. 9. Sing SomethingPick a song that will express your feeling for him perfectly. Sing it casually while playing around, or just send him that voice note to flutter him. More Tips On Saying I Love YouHere are the ways to tell your boyfriend you love him for the first time: 1. Don’t Say It All The TimeYes, you love him so much. Saying it day and night will scare him off or maybe that words will turn out meaningless.
Do you feel like he kind of takes you for granted? Unfortunately this is one of the most frequent complaints we get from our readers, where they feel they aren't a priority for their boyfriend or husband. They always seem to have some excuse as to why they can't spend some quality time with you like they used to. Due to popular demand, our friend prepared a quick video (click to watch) that'll show you to one easy but often overlooked thing that you can say to him today that'll help him realize how lucky he is to have you (hint: it's something that taps into how men are wired). |