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Colin Wright correctly points out that replying to the question, "What are your pronouns?" implies acceptance of the premise that humans can choose their gender ("When Asked for Your 'Pronouns,' Don't Answer," op-ed, Feb. 5). His suggestion not to reply to the pronoun impertinence makes good sense. But matters are sometimes more complex. The only person to ask me for pronouns did so in bureaucratic mode as I was scheduling a medical appointment. Not wanting to jeopardize my health for a principled stand on pronouns, I unhappily mumbled "he/his." Some employers and schools require staff and students to supply pronouns. In such cases, rudeness, sarcasm or refusal do not work. Something succinct, clever and polite is needed. My best retort is, "I think you know the answer," but I welcome better ones from your readers. Daniel Pipes
Feb. 10, 2022 addendum: Other suggestions:
I received my first email recently from someone with pronouns in the email signature (it must have been imposed on her because I was forwarded another email from a different person in the same organisation stating pronouns...as if one couldn't work it out from the name). I felt embarrassed for them having to do that. I went to a yoga retreat a while ago and in the lead up someone started a "what are your pronouns" email trail. I sort of kind of accidentally overlooked it and didn't respond. If pressed, I think I would have said, "I'm female, any third person pronoun will do." Where I work, the pronouns thing hasn't caught on yet but I'm bracing myself for it. People with names that aren't obviously coded "female" or "male" often add "Mr" or "Ms" to their signature to make it clear which sex they are, which makes sense and surely should suffice. One way to push back might be, "isn't that forcing trans and gender diverse identifying colleagues to out themselves when they might not be comfortable with that?" It's performative inclusivity which, it seems to me, does nothing to address any systemic problems and alienates everyone. Also, the logic of claiming ownership of the third person pronouns others use is bizarre to me. What happened to, "What other people think of you is none of your business?" If a they/them demanded pronoun cirles at every meeting, I would probably avoid referring to or dealing with that person at all. I almost miss the days when I'd get correspondence addressed to me as "dear Sir" because the writer hadn't bothered to change the template (I used to take great delight in addressing my responses to the always male senders with "dear Madam" - if they were going to make a show of not addressing their recipient correctly, then so would I). It seems like a simpler time in the history of sexism. I am starting college next week and with new classes, I have heard that many people will ask for your “gender pronouns” (If you don’t know what I mean, consider yourself lucky) I have been thinking about how I should politely respond when I am inevitably asked this question. I don’t want to affirm the idea that there are more than two sexes but I also don’t want to introduce myself by starting a war. So what should I say?
For those of us who understand that sex is a biological term that applies to possums, wolves, elephants and humans, what should we say when asked for our “pronouns”? Colin Wright says we should refuse to answer the question. I think a bare refusal is a bit rude. People asking for pronouns often don’t mean any harm, even though they are implicitly asking you to buy into an ideology that conflicts with biology, often without awareness that they are doing this. I agree with Wright that a request for pronouns constitutes stereotyping. What would I do next time I’m asked? I might respond by saying something like: “Sign me up as a human being who doesn’t believe in stereotyping.” If that triggers an awkward silence, perhaps I would follow up: “But by all means, I’m not telling anyone else how to respond . . . Wright’s article appears in the Wall Street Journal. The title is “When Asked ‘What Are Your Pronouns,’ Don’t AnswerA seemingly innocuous question masks a demand for conformity with a regressive set of ideas.” Here’s an excerpt:
Here is a free pdf of Colin Wright’s article. [Added April 21 2022] Feb. 9, 2022 1:01 pm ET Listen to article (1 minute) Colin Wright correctly points out that replying to the question, “What are your pronouns?” implies acceptance of the premise that humans can choose their gender (“When Asked for Your ‘Pronouns,’ Don’t Answer,” op-ed, Feb. 5). His suggestion not to reply to the pronoun impertinence makes good sense. But matters are sometimes more complex. The only person to ask me for pronouns did so in bureaucratic mode as I was scheduling a medical appointment. Not wanting to jeopardize my health for a principled stand on pronouns, I unhappily mumbled “he/his.” Some employers and schools require staff and students to supply pronouns. In such cases, rudeness, sarcasm or refusal do not work. |