How to get toddler to try new foods

Does your tot put up a fuss whenever he’s served new foods (and even then, only barely nibbles on them)? Not only is your child’s picky palate making mealtime monotonous, but you may also be worried that he isn’t getting the nutrients he needs.

Here are a few ways to entice picky eaters to eat something new for a change.

Why is my toddler suddenly such a picky eater?

Picky eating is part and parcel of being a toddler. As with many other perfectly normal, yet exasperating toddler behaviors, your child’s growing need for independence and control (yes, even at this age) is a major contributing factor — and mealtime is the one place where he can exert some control.

Many toddlers are also resistant to change — and trying new foods is a big-time change — whereas others just have sensitive taste buds and prefer to eat bland foods for the time being.

Tips for getting a picky toddler to eat

Your toddler will likely outgrow his finicky eating habits before long. But in the meantime, there are ways to tempt your toddler to finish a meal.

Involve your child in food prep

Your picky eater may be a lot more interested in trying something new if he’s had a hand in putting it together. Take your child shopping at the grocery store or farmer’s market and let him help pick out foods he’d like to eat.

Back at home, let him help make the meal. Even a toddler can stir fruit into yogurt or squirt mustard on bread. 

Or try planting an herb or vegetable garden in a corner of your yard or on your windowsill. Let your toddler help water the plants and watch them sprout. Encourage him to taste what he’s grown.

Give him options

Load your picky eater’s plate with a few different foods, though at least one of them should be something he likes to eat. Next, encourage him to explore one of the new foods — pick it up, touch it and smell it — so that it becomes more familiar to him. 

Or, try offering him two different options: "Would you like some bananas or peaches with your cereal?" By allowing your toddler to choose what he eats, you satisfy his appetite for autonomy.

Don’t be too pushy

It’s good to encourage your toddler to "take a taste" of a new (or old) food. But if he refuses, don’t pressure him, bribe him or even tell him to "try one more bite." You won’t win this battle, and holding your ground can backfire and turn your child off to the food instead.

Remember: You’re responsible for serving the food — your toddler is responsible for how much of it he decides to eat. 

Try "food chaining" (or "food bridging")

This simply means serving foods that are similar. For example, if your child eats cantaloupe, try serving him some ripe honeydew melon — he may dig right in. If he likes tortellini, he may take to ravioli in that bowl as well. If he's a fan of cut-up zucchini, throw in some very thin, seedless cucumber slices on his plate. 

Present food in a new way

Maybe steamed carrots aren’t his thing — but puréed carrots may ring his bell. Is yogurt a no go? Try giving him a yogurt drink or squeezable yogurt in a tube. A toddler who doesn’t like the texture of tofu may enjoy popping mashed soybeans into his mouth.

Host a play (food) date

Children learn a lot from other kids their age. Arrange a lunch date with your picky eater’s pals and find out what they like to eat — then, invite them over and let them be good role models. Food always looks better on someone else’s plate — especially when it comes with a stamp of approval from a best friend.

Give the food another name

If your toddler loves broccoli but turns up her nose at cauliflower, dub soft-cooked cauliflower "white broccoli." Or, indulge your tot’s love of mashed potatoes by calling sweet potatoes "orange potatoes."

You might even be able to coax your little one to eat vegetable quiche by calling it "pie." Later on, after he likes the food — or when he graduates from high school, whichever comes first — you can clue him into the real names.

Make "food art"

A sandwich cut into four squares is still the same old boring sandwich. But shaping it into a snowman with a cookie cutter or decorating the bread with a "face" — cucumber eyes, a berry nose, red-pepper mouth and shredded yellow squash for hair — can make it more appealing. Who knows, this cartoon character sandwich might just tempt your toddler to take a bite.

Set a good example

Children learn by watching their parents. So act out your enthusiasm for good-for-you foods that are served at mealtimes. ("Mmm … the tomatoes in this salad are so yummy!") 

Don’t give up

Just because your child refused something the first time you offered it to him doesn’t mean he won’t eat it the next time. Continue to serve up that new food, and eventually, once it becomes a familiar sight, your tot may venture a taste.

Be patient, though. It can take up to 15 attempts before your picky eater gets used to a new flavor.

Best foods for picky eater toddlers

As easy as it may be to throw together yet another bowl of pasta, try to broaden your toddler’s culinary horizons with an array of colorful fruits and vegetables (which are packed with nutrients), iron-rich meats and healthy whole grains.

Just make sure you cut the foods into small enough pieces that your child isn’t at risk of choking.

To up your child’s interest in his meals, try boosting the flavors with spices (like cinnamon), herbs and lemon juice.

Here are a few picky-eater favorites:

• Apples
• Avocados
• Bananas
• Beans
• Blueberries
• Cheese
• Chicken
• Cucumbers
• Eggs
• Bell peppers
• Raspberries
• Salmon
• Strawberries
• Whole grain bread
• Yogurt

When to talk to your child’s doctor about picky eating

As long as your toddler is getting enough calories — and isn’t subsisting on cheese puffs — food ruts aren’t harmful to his long-term health. Remember, too, that as a parent, it's your responsibility to serve healthy food to your child — but it's up to him to decide just how much he wants to eat.

Children’s appetites slow down in toddlerhood compared to when they were babies. If, however, you notice that your child isn’t gaining any weight or seems weak, lethargic or unusually irritable, talk to your pediatrician, who can help make sure that your little one is getting all the nutrients he needs. 

Whether your child is just scared of broccoli or is totally fearful of any food that isn't white, there are tactics that can help your picky eater. See what strategies experts at specially designed fussy eater clinics, as well as kids' book authors, have to help even the most reluctant children try new foods, plus their special tactics for kids with sensory issues.

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If you've ever gone head-to-head with a finicky child, then dinner probably feels like a war zone you'd rather avoid. The food on his plate doesn't necessarily have to go into his mouth. If he moves a vegetable around, pulls it apart with his fingers, or sniffs it, then he's at least getting more familiar with its look and feel. In fact, in a study at the University of Eastern Finland, kindergartners spent hands-on time with fruits and veggies in their classroom by baking and cooking with them, growing a garden, and seeing food-related themes in books and games. As a result, they were more likely to choose these food groups from a snack buffet than kids who didn't have these classroom activities.

If you're flustered about feeding your child—because the more you push your child to eat, the farther she pushes her her plate away—rest assured that that's normal, says Marina Chaparro, R.D., a pediatric nutrition expert in Miami, who admits that even she is not immune to these feelings when dining with her 2-year-old daughter, Emma Lucia.

"I'm human!" she says of the frustration she feels when her little girl refuses a certain food. That's when she remembers the advice she gives parents at her nutrition practice, Nutrichicos: Much of what we consider picky eating is actually normal developmental behavior—phases when kids assert their independence by controlling what they eat and being naturally wary of new foods.

As long as you continue presenting healthy options, you're doing your job, Chaparro says: "Parents are responsible for providing the meal. You go to the grocery store, you prepare the food. But ultimately, the child is responsible for whether she wants to eat it."

That concept may be hard to swallow for parents who were raised to clean their plates.

"It takes patience and consistency" to work, assures Chaparro. There will be times when toddlers will eat very little one day and compensate the next, she adds. But if your child is growing normally and the pediatrician is not concerned, then don't stress it. What you can do is involve children in the meal-prep process to entice them to chow down. Get their help in planning the week's menu. Bring them along to the supermarket to pick out ingredients. Let them assist in the kitchen (cute aprons are an added bonus).

When it comes to dinnertime, balance the meal by putting veggies and fruits on one half of the plate, and protein and grains or starch on the other half, Chaparro suggests. With her own daughter, she introduces new foods one at a time, next to two others that she knows Emma Lucia will eat.

Instead of getting frustrated about foods that are met with a closed mouth, she simply serves them again at future dinners, a strategy backed by studies showing that young kids are more accepting of a new vegetable once it has been presented several times. You don't want to be the "food police," Chaparro says. "If all you're doing is nagging, kids are going to react negatively to eating altogether."

To help him get into the habit of eating something different every day, don't offer the same food two days in a row, says Dina Rose, Ph.D., author of It's Not About the Broccoli. Say "You had carrots with lunch yesterday. Today you can have cauliflower or peas, and tomorrow you can have carrots again if you want."

Sure, you're not giving your kid a giant bowl of peas. But Keith E. Williams, Ph.D., director of the feeding program at Penn State Hershey Medical Center, in Pennsylvania, says many parents offer a portion that's way too large. "We usually begin with pieces so small that they could literally be blown away," he says. At home, try a single pea, part of a noodle, or a crumble of cheese. Encourage your child by saying something like, "This is easy—you could be done in a second." Once your child eats it, give him a food he does like. Then, at subsequent meals, increase the portion of the new food and phase out the follow-up food.

You could also try introducing a food they love, alongside a new food to make trying something new less intimidating. For example, offer their favorite Thomas' English Muffins and top it with something they've never tried, say strawberry jam. They will be more inclined to take a bite to get to that yummy English muffin.

You want your kid to trust you about her food, especially if she's picky. If she asks what that green speck is in her smoothie, tell her you added spinach, recommends Rose. And if she responds, "Yuck, no way!" say, "Now you know what's in it. Let's investigate those specks." Then show her what a spinach leaf looks like.

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You've probably heard it before: A child has to try something ten to 15 times before he likes it. "While that sounds daunting to many parents who have a hard time getting their kids to try something once, it does get easier," says Dr. Williams. His research shows that once you get the ball rolling on tasting new foods, it takes on average only six attempts for kids to accept them. "Still, a lot of parents don't want to introduce new foods at lunch or dinner because it may ruin the meal for the whole family," he says. "Instead, offer them during snacktime."

Before the appointment, most feeding clinics ask parents to record what their child has eaten and drunk for at least the last three days. "When we look at these records, we see that a lot of kids who resist new foods eat snack foods or drink all day long, which limits their hunger for foods at meals," says Nancy Entgelmeier, a pediatric nurse practitioner in the feeding clinic at Children's Hospitals and Clinics of Minnesota in Minneapolis. Once families cut back to three meals and one to three snacks at relatively consistent times, Entgelmeier says they find that their kids are more receptive to trying something new because they're truly hungry."

Ditto for drinks: "We saw one toddler who consumed 60 ounces of milk and 12 ounces of juice every day," she says. "Because he filled up on liquids, he didn't want to eat anything."

While feeding-clinic sessions generally take place one-on-one, Dr. Williams says that at home you can harness the power of peers. "You and your spouse do influence what your child tries, but no one can make a bigger difference than his friends," says Dr. Williams.

A study by a Penn State colleague, Helen Hendy, Ph.D., found that preschoolers were more likely to taste mango when they saw a classmate do it. "Sometimes all it takes is for a friend to snatch a piece of broccoli for your kid to want to nibble on it," he says. Of course, one taste probably won't make him a broccoli fan, but it will help him get over the hump of trying it, which is half the battle.

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Dinner with eager eaters may be smoother, but it really takes off once everyone starts chatting. Tiffany Bendayan, a chef and baker in Miami, devises different ways to make the table a space where her daughters—Emily, 10, and Sofia, 8—feel comfortable sharing just about anything. She asks fun hypothetical questions as icebreakers: "What would you do with a million dollars? If you could travel anywhere, where would you go? Where would you like to live one day?"

"It shows me what's important to them," says the Venezuelan mom, who shares recipes on the blog Living Sweet Moments. "I've learned that Sofia is obsessed with traveling to Japan, and Emily, who has perfected her British accent thanks to the Harry Potter movies, would love to visit Buckingham Palace in England."

Moms of younger children can start by sharing interesting details of their own day to help little ones feel included. Johany Torres's kids, Livia, 5, and Joaquin, 3, love to hear about their mom's fantastical creations as a cake artist. "Talking about everyone's day teaches our kids that we also care about them and what they do every day, whether it's making new friends at school or their latest trip to the bookstore," says the Guatemalan–Puerto Rican mom in Bolingbrook, Illinois. She and her husband, Ruben, also encourage their children to be natural storytellers by recounting tales from their own childhoods. "They like asking about my favorite movies when I was their age, and then we'll watch them together," Torres says.

For some families, a change of scenery is all it takes to get everyone chatting and enjoying one another's company. "Eating as a family doesn't have to be defined by a table," says Neyssa Jump, a food photographer in Douglasville, Pennsylvania. "It's about being together." The Cuban–Puerto Rican mom of five, ages 2 to 11, regularly gathers her tribe for picnics in the park or on their living-room floor if it's raining. "You branch out, and all of a sudden, everyone's happy, everyone's eating, and they're talking without a lot of effort," Jump says.

If your child is okay with trying foods but never seems to like any of them even after multiple attempts, he may experience flavors or textures more acutely. These suggestions work especially well for children with sensory problems although all picky eaters may benefit from trying them.

Some food avoiders relish the attention that it brings them. "We had one patient who told his mom that he wanted to try a bagel," recalls Dr. Girolami. "She sent her husband out for bagels and played with her son the whole time they waited. When Dad came home with every flavor of bagel the bakery sold, their son wasn't interested in eating anything despite lots of coaxing." The message: Don't necessarily make a huge deal when your child wants to try something—the more casual you are about it (offer him a piece, but don't watch him eat it for instance), the more likely it is that he'll actually follow through, says Dr. Girolami.

At some feeding clinics, the staff takes pictures or video of accomplishments for parents to show their child at home as a reminder that he or she liked a new food. "We encourage parents to casually say something like, 'Oh, look at the day you tried baby carrots at the clinic and thought they were okay. We're having carrots and dip for snack,' " says Kerry Glidewell, a pediatric speech language pathologist in the Little Bites Feeding Program at Wolfson Children's Hospital in Jacksonville, Florida.

You may think it's ridiculous to puree foods for your 5-year-old. But that's exactly what they sometimes do at feeding clinics. "We might try reducing the texture to a smooth consistency, which makes it easier for the child to consume a new flavor," says Dr. Girolami. "As the sessions go by, we make the puree chunkier and chunkier until a couple of months later, she's able to eat the actual foods." The experts work on color preferences in the same way: "We have mixed mashed sweet potatoes and mashed white potatoes together," he says. "At first, it's 95 percent white and kids can't detect a difference. But as the weeks go by, the color starts to change. When it begins to look orange, they generally don't freak out because the progress has been so gradual." If your child doesn't like potatoes, you can try this at home with other foods, like plain yogurt (stir in a small bit of fruit sauce or jam) or pancakes (add pureed fruit or veggies to the batter).

Not all picky eaters want bland food. Some seek flavor and/or crunch, says Nicole Lidyard, R.D., a clinical dietitian at UH Rainbow Babies & Children's Hospital in Cleveland. "One mom told me that her son licked her Buffalo chicken wing and he loved it," says Lidyard. If your child prefers sweetness, glaze carrots with a little honey or ketchup (try Simply Heinz Ketchup, which is made with cane sugar instead of high-fructose corn syrup). If he likes spice, season crab cakes or chicken with chili powder.

Some feeding clinics follow a strategy called food chaining, fading, or graduated exposure, using a food that the child prefers to get her to try something similar. For instance, if your kid is obsessed with chicken nuggets, it's likely going to be harder to introduce shrimp than another kind of chicken. "We might go from chicken nuggets to the same kind of nuggets with less breading, or a different brand of chicken nugget or chicken strip, to pieces of a grilled chicken breast," says Entgelmeier. "And then we'll move on to chicken with noodles or rice."

If you've got a pizza fan, you might progress from pizza to pasta with tomato sauce and cheese, to grilled cheese with tomato soup, to a cheese quesadilla with salsa. You can also select foods based on shape or texture (crispy french fries to sweet-potato fries, chicken sticks to fish sticks) or color (plain pancakes or waffles to waffles with jelly or peanut butter to PB&J). "Don't rush from one food or texture to the next," says Dr. Girolami. "Give it at least a week or two until the gains seem maintained. A few months from now, you'll be rewarded with a healthier eater."